How often had you encountered an
awkward situation wherein you are quite stupefied on how beautiful a girl is or
how good-looking a man is only to be disgusted or worst turned off because of their oppositely bad attitude? Beauty can easily deteriorate because of such behavior. In the
end, character is what defines us.
It is indeed uncomfortable and
definitely frustrating to deal with a person who has a nasty attitude. By its
definition, attitude means “a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone
or something, typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior.” It is
our mental state of being translated through our actions and most often through
what comes out of the mouth.
What is more challenging now
is what will you do when that person is a friend, a relative, a co-worker, or even
your spouse?
Most of these types of people
are bad-mouthed, bossy, demanding, ill-tempered, loud, impatient, consistent naggers and rude where
they think that nothing good really goes their way and that every little
thing that goes off-hand upsets them so easily. These are types of people who know how to criticize heavily but don’t know
how to accept criticisms in return. How they ended up that way
comes along way such as a bad childhood, life experiences with a lot of negativity, the fear of rejection, their environment, as well as their outlook
in life.
What you need to do is to try
to understand where all of these are coming from and let them realize that life
has its ups and downs and encourage them rather to focus on the positive side
of everything more than wasting their time succumbing to the opposite
direction.
Being on the upper hand, it is
very important to be extra patient and be very understanding as it will be quite hard for them to overcome their attitude. You just can’t change an attitude
overnight. And there are even times where you will be the target of their
defiance and hostility when you force them to change it at once. In the end, when
you remain to be kind-hearted, soft-spoken and patient, they will fully understand
what your real intention is and will eventually mirror how you behave towards
them.
Most often, they are perfectly
aware of their behavior but don’t bother to change it because no one ever told
them or made them realize how unpleasant or hurtful it is to other people. Talk
it over. Pray for them. Help them establish a real relationship with the Lord. Genuine
concern shows how much you care for them. If you rip one by one the sturdy façade
of being bossy, bad-mouth, demanding, nagging, irritating, and being prickly, deep
inside is a soul that is vulnerable and weak. They just mask their frailty.
So the next time that you see
someone with an attitude, instead of running away from him, take that chance
instead to help him change for the better.
Jessie Corpuz-Dericto, 29 years old is a
Freelance Writer, Blogger, Virtual Assistant and a nursing mom. She is also
into news and trends, fashion, photography, painting, sketching and the roller
coaster ride of motherhood. She loves sensible talks, long walks and activities
that will enrich both the mind and soul.
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