Scientifically, our heart is the
most hard-working muscle. Without our heart, we cannot live. It is such a vital
organ where blood is being circulated throughout our entire body that the rest
of our body systems are dependent on how it functions. It pumps up oxygen for
our survival. And we have our heartbeat to indicate that per second it is at
work.
The heart holds a special place.
It is a dwelling place of exuberant love and compassion, of joy and happiness, of
hope and peace. That’s why when we talk about the heart; sometimes we even
tend to forget its scientific functions because we are thinking otherwise of it
as a collective psyche.
And yet once broken into pieces, it
can also be a nest of anger, confusion, disappointment, hatred, grief and pain.
The hardest phase a teenager can ever face is
dealing with heartache due to a break-up and how to overcome it. It is a
dreaded stage because a lot of them weren't exposed yet to real pain and how to
mend the wound. Teenagers, in the first place are vulnerable as they are just
embracing the sense of maturity and independence, breaking free from their childhood
and innocence.
What You Need to Know About Heartbreak
Everyone, at one point in their
lives experienced break-ups, broken into pieces, especially when a romantic relationship which they
thought will last forever suddenly ended. There is a nagging, intense feeling of
being down, tormented and lonely. The pain is so brimming that you want to shout so everybody will know how much you are suffering yet don't have the courage to
do so as you find yourself in the weakest, darkest, gloomiest point of your
life and it is really dragging you down; where you hated silence as it just echoes the emotions that you are nursing
and it vibrates to its loudest pitch; where you are thankful that it is night
time as you will cry silently, your pillow and the four-wall room will be your
muted witnesses. You are not alone.
The thing is, heartbreak, no
matter what caused it (romantic relationship that ended up, a strong love that
you felt for someone but wasn't reciprocated, first love-first heartbreak, friendship
that ended or abandoned, rejection over an intense desire of winning over it,
or even losing someone or something) will always be the same—you still have to
deal with this pain. And it sucks!
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How Will You Overcome it?
Here are suggestions that you can do especially if the heartbreak is already too hefty to bear:
Acknowledge the Pain
The healing process starts with
acknowledging the pain. You might say, well I am already in pain! I know what
pain is, what are you talking about? According to wellbeingalignment.com,
“Not always. Many of us have a surprising amount of emotional
trauma in our energy field that lies below our conscious awareness. In some
cases we might be aware of some of the symptoms of an energetic wound within
us, but we are unconscious of its deeper CAUSE – a core place of constriction
where Life Force feels blocked.”
Most often than not, teens hide the strands of their emotional torments by going
on with their lives. They hide the pain because they are scared to face
its stings. That’s why many of them conform into self-denial. But at the end of
the day, the pain is still there. It just doesn't go.
When you acknowledge the pain, you are also embracing your
vulnerability and the best way to cope with it is to take time to know yourself
and understand the cause of it. It will enable you to find your own inner
strength. With that, you will get to know yourself more and will even be
surprised of how capable you are of mending your broken heart and be whole again.
Of course it will not be done overnight. Finding your own
balance and inner peace takes time. Be patient with yourself.When you thought that you will never be happy again, time will definitely help you heal the wound and you will have those lovely smiles back!
Talk About it
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Talk things through, cry over it, pour out
your heart. As they say, “ two heads are better than one”, so is the heart. It
will be very comforting when you let yourself be heard and let them help you to
ease the loss.
Take note though to respect what
they have to say (they might be giving you pieces of advice that are the exact opposite of what you are expecting them to say in order to comfort you, or what they might suggest will be more
hurtful) but giving their honest opinion, especially if they had experienced it
before will give you a greater picture of how you will see the break-up clearly
in a different perspective. In the first place, you opened up your wound
because you trusted them.
Entrust it to the Lord
This is the best solution a teenager
can do in order to accept things and to move on. God is a true Promise Keeper;
He is the Prince of Peace. Whatever you entrust to God, He will take care of
it. In the first place, we are His children; He is the Creator of Life.
You have to understand that your
heartaches and heartbreaks and all other things that are upside down were there
to test your faith, to strengthen your hold with God.
You may pass through deep waters,
but God is always with you. There is always hope in a hopeless situation when
you surrender the pain and all of your despair to Jesus. And by entrusting everything to the Lord, it will soon lead to
acceptance and forgiveness not only to the person or situation that caused the
pain, but to forgive your own self as well. There is no greater love than the
unconditional love that God has to offer.
Matthew 5:4 “Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be
comforted.”
Teenage heartbreaks and break-ups no matter how
hard it is can be dealt by grace. It is a passage to prepare you towards the
greater lessons in life. It is a part of growing up. So just be strong. Lift your
chin high and believe that there is always someone meant for you who will come
along and will make you feel that the pain is so worth it as he or she makes you whole again. Or, take this chance to know yourself
more in order to understand what you really want in life. Pain is there to be
felt, and pain can always be surpassed. Life is good despite of its welts.
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